Everything You Need to Know About Scott Dinsmore

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 (Scott and his wife, Chelsea, at one of their many locations on their planned year-long trip around the world.)

 

I have a hard time writing this, my tribute to the late and great Scott Dinsmore, founder of Live Your Legend, leader of authenticity, instigator of passion and purpose.  It’s not because thinking about him makes me want to cry again – I’ve become proficient at writing between sobbing sessions this week. It’s not because of his long, heartfelt response to my last email to him, just a few weeks prior to his passing. It’s not because of all the wonderful truths about him in the thousands of messages, stories, poems, songs, videos, and articles that continue to pour into his tribute page.

I’m having a hard time writing this because:

1) I don’t feel worthy. I’m not family, nor a close friend, nor a colleague, nor someone he’s worked with. I’m not in his inner circle.

2) I’m afraid of messing up, of not doing justice to honor him with something as amazing as he was.

Despite these reasons, I know I have to say something; I’m so full-up with gratitude for him, because it is well-placed.

Even though I wasn’t in Scott’s close circle, he made me feel like I was. And apparently, he managed to do this to thousands of people all over the world. Testimony after testimony continue to show up on his tribute page from people who had never met him in person, but who were so impacted by his energy, spirit, and contributions, that they, too, were devastated by the news of his death last Saturday.

Why?

Because Scott was real. He was genuinely open to connect with everyone who reached out to him. He was also kind, patient, positive, humble, and thoughtful – as uncommonly a beautiful person and gentle spirit as you could imagine.

He was transparent. He had a bubbly, nervous energy sometimes, and he openly shared his vulnerabilities. He loved Taylor Swift, did handstands, and breakdanced for all to see. I was not in his inner circle, yet I knew these things.

Scott was intelligent. He was unassuming about his intelligence, but through his writing, online content, and how he packed his courses, you could tell the guy had a busy, analytical, sparkly brain.

He was also wise. Scott saw the big picture. He wanted to create a life of purpose through work that he loved, and one that would create space for more meaning and love in his life. He wanted to share this with others, as well, to change the world in the most powerful and igniting way – through the individual. To spread this quickly, while keeping the integrity of true human connection, he created the LYL community, with all the local communities run by their perspective volunteer hosts around the world.

He was a giver. Scott gave so much value on his website, in his posts, through his connections, presence, time – for FREE.  He wasn’t a nickle-n-dimer – he even had the LYL T-shirts made available for the community to purchase at cost. He was endlessly generous with his kindness, smile, and energy. He could have made a lot more money, but Scott was more about the vision he had for the good of the world.

He was a healer. Our society is so broken because of the many layers of disconnection. Scott was all about real, heartfelt, human connection. He managed to create this intimacy on a massive scale. For those of us who fortunately meandered towards his work of light, we were rewarded with fulfillment of this basic, yet sorely lacking, human need.

In this past week, members of the LYL community worldwide gathered together online to grieve and comfort each other. It was how I was able to fall apart completely, but then pull through faster than I imagined I could at the depth that I fell. The community was a sieve that I threw myself into through this period of grief, and came out the other side with greater love, clarity, connection, and purpose. This was Scott’s work.

Finally, and most importantly, Scott Dinsmore was unequivocally a good person. One of my favorite quotes that I’ve held close to heart all my life was the Q&A from a reader to advice columnist, Marilyn Vos Savant, for The Washington Post, way back when I was a kid:

          “Q: How do you tell between Good and Evil?
           MvS: You give it power.”

Scott had brains. He had charm. He had connections. He was in a position of power and influence. He could have only spoken or given real time to those who could amp up his career, but he treated every person like gold. He hoarded nothing, tried to help everyone have a leg up whenever possible, and responded to each connection with full engagement and exuberance.

This gift of thorough and authentic goodness is what makes Scott a legend. He is a leader by sheer example. I am so grateful to have been given the chance to know and connect with him at any capacity, because the fruit does not fall far from the tree, and every branch that Scott nurtured will bear fruit of the same light, joy, and healing that Scott’s spirit embodies.

“Even if you decide you want to stay off grid (and you deserve happiness in whatever form you choose), the seeds have been planted for so many people because of you….I want to thank you for keeping me inspired through your own greatness of simply being who you are. The stuff that has been coming out of that is bonus.”  (From my last email to Scott, just before he went off the grid.)

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29 Responses to Everything You Need to Know About Scott Dinsmore

  1. Lewis Nelson September 19, 2015 at 9:48 pm #

    Yazminh,

    You were such an amazing connector when I started CWA in 2013… I assure you are definitely worthy to provide a tribute to Scott; you are one of the very representatives of the type of community Scott thrived to create. This is a great post, one that will help me to explain to people why I’m still emotional about his loss a full week later.

    Lewis

    • Yazminh September 19, 2015 at 10:04 pm #

      Wow, thank you, so so much, Lewis. Happy to connect to not only another LYLer, but a fellow CWA classmate!

      Yes, I’m grateful for the beauty of this grief Scott’s passing has brought to me. Grief represents the presence of love.

      Keep in touch, please!

      ~Yazminh

  2. Pramal September 20, 2015 at 3:39 am #

    Hi Yazminh

    I just came across this via the FB group. I’m devastated that I never got to meet Scott. I follow his blog (love reading his emails) and have done a few of his courses. Thank you so much for capturing what I’m thinking above. It reminds me to step up my game and start living by his message more so. You also seem like an incredible inspiration and I’ll be following you now… 🙂

    Peace x

    Pramal

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:10 am #

      Hi Pramal,

      I feel your pain, truly. I’m so glad I could help express your own feelings and processing of your grief. You have a deep love for humanity and light, and your grief for Scott is and expression of that.

      Thanks for reaching out and connecting.

      Truly,
      Yazminh

  3. Stephanie Rogers September 20, 2015 at 5:17 am #

    Yazminh, your tribute is so beautiful and heart-felt. I love the different ways that you’ve described Scott and agree with everything. I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing your heart with us. I’m glad to be connected with you through LYL. Sending you huge hugs! Stephanie

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:14 am #

      Hi Stephanie,

      Thank you for reading, recognizing my heart, and sending the love. Even more than ever, connecting with my LYL friends is a gift for me.

      XO,
      Yazminh

  4. Stephanie Danese September 20, 2015 at 5:29 am #

    This is beautiful! It describes him to a T. Thank you for writing this, I hope Chelsea & his family find comfort in this tribute.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:18 am #

      Thanks for reaching out to comment, Stephanie. Yes, as I wrote this, I was hoping that Chelsea and his loved ones would feel honored that a “stranger” received Scott’s light with such detail and love, and in that, feel comforted.

      Be well, and thank you for reading.

      ~Yazminh

  5. Bereji September 20, 2015 at 6:56 am #

    Hi Yazminh,

    Thank you for sharing this, this is beautiful! I bought Scott’s course back in late 2012 and yet reading this helped me understand his particular “genius” (and by that I really mean his heart) more.

    Especially the part about how giving someone power to see what they are made of and your observation that he always was willing to give everyone a leg up helped me to see this aspect of himself more clearly.

    Thank you for writing this and sharing it.

    All the best,
    B.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:27 am #

      Hi Bereji,

      I’m happy to connect to another LYLer, and one who has taken one of Scott’s courses, b/c I know that you have invested and gone deeper with Scott’s values and mission.

      Yes, somehow, at a young age, I understood the great significance of that quote, and it really stuck to me. It is def one of the reasons that Scott stands out for me (and others, whether or not they have articulated this particular quality), b/c it is very rare.

      Thank you for reading and for your own astute observation.

      Very truly,
      Yazminh

  6. susa September 20, 2015 at 7:02 am #

    This is so immaculately thought through and written. you also wrote something profoundly precious to Scott in your last e-mail to him. in a way that no-one would have preferred he has gone off grid but not before blessing this world with his pure authentic being.

    you are brilliant~ and i love the design of your blog, plus the name xx

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:31 am #

      Hi Susa,

      Thank you for sharing your grace of understanding the fine details of what I’ve shared here. It makes me glad to know that others are feeling the nuances of my heart through them, as I’ve recognized the nuances of Scott’s spirit through his own work.

      (Thank you also for your input on my website. 🙂 )

      Be well,
      Yazminh

  7. David Dempsey September 20, 2015 at 8:26 am #

    Yazminh,

    I love your blog, especially this piece on Scott. You are as qualified as any of his students to talk about his work and the experience of being at the end of an email from him.

    You’ve distilled the essence of this weird time of sadness and gratitude. The grief of his loss is balanced by the support experienced in the community he built. They are two sides of the same coin. His brilliance and compassion built a community which reflects those qualities.

    Thank you for your passion and authenticity.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:33 am #

      Hi David,

      Thank you for your great support and understanding. Yes and yes to Scott’s brilliance and compassion.

      XO,
      Yazminh

  8. Jeremy September 20, 2015 at 9:58 am #

    I thought this was great, Yazminh. You didn’t mess up at all.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:34 am #

      Thanks, dear Jeremy. <3

  9. Mercedes September 20, 2015 at 11:08 am #

    Beautiful dear friend,

    I admire your honest and beautiful way to describe a life changing experience. As a read you, I felt a kind of sadness and determination build on me. I was part of Scott’s legacy in a time of my life I was not able to grasp the full impact of his touch. I was blessed though with the opportunity to come to know people as you. I will remain open and alert to what life is offering even if I don’t understand the package it comes in, I will remember you, the way you take from life all the magic and wisdom it offers with humility and passion. I will also remember Scott legacy and how big issues in our society can be solved with love and fierce commitment to a cause worth of giving our life for. I think I really, “really” saw Scott through your eyes, and for that I am deeply grateful. You are Jaz worthy to speak in his name, because you, not only were touched by him, you represent the best of Scott’ ideas, you my dear friend are a walking and very alive proof of what Scott’s view of the world was, and I know for sure he knew it and felt awesome about it. Scott brought together people with amazing qualities and was generous enough to allow them to blossom. That is the mark of a great leader. He served as a role model for many, now you serve as one for me. To Scott and YOU. Thanks. Love you so much.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 11:48 am #

      Wow, Mercedes! Now I’m really feeling Scott when I say: I am just blown away by your beautiful and touching sentiments. Your own blog has always left me deeply thoughtful, and your passion is fully present through your words, art, and relationships. You’re also a thinker and great humanitarian. All that you are saying about me is a reflection of yourself.

      So it is a great honor to hear those words coming from you. I know you feel me, and get me, and now are giving to me so much, in terms of validating that I am honoring a man I appreciate so much. Thank you so very, very much for this.

      Much love, my dear friend.

      ~Yazminh

  10. Susi September 20, 2015 at 11:31 am #

    Thank you for this beautiful tribute.

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 11:49 am #

      Hi Susi,

      Thanks for reconnecting to share your love and support.

      XO,
      Yazminh

  11. Michael Teferi September 20, 2015 at 11:52 am #

    Yazminh,

    As a fellow member of LYL and our local Fairfax LYLers, it is such an honor and privilege to read and experience this most heartfelt, passionately articulated and beautifully soulful, insightful message posted of yours.

    Even as I wish I would have been personally in contact/connected with Scott, ultimately all of us LYLers are connected through him and our common values, vision and hearts. Know that you and all of us, with Scott’s help, support and inspiration, are powerful beyond measure and we will continue to live our legends for ourselves, other people and especially on behalf of Scott.

    Thank you for being you Yazminh, for sharing and caring so deeply with us, for including me as part of our local community, and for embracing one of my personal philosophies simply by being your full self: “Inspiration, Realization, Action”. Scott did so of his own volition so naturally, so are you and plenty others in simple and unique ways. As we grieve, let’s ensure to celebrate Scott and be there for each other.

    Truly,

    ~Michael~

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 12:07 pm #

      Hi Michael,

      This was really lovely to read. Thank you for taking the time to reach out and share your own sentiments on your feelings about Scott and our community. Looking forward to continuing his good work through our local and global communities, as well. See you there!

      Very truly,
      Yazminh

  12. Pam Costa September 20, 2015 at 12:16 pm #

    Hugs Yazminh,

    Your heartfelt blog post is a wonderful tribute to Scott. He touched so many with his love of people and community and his legacy will no doubt bring light to the dark places in the world. Thank you, even though most of us didn’t meet him offline, you wrote about the Scott that I “knew”.

    Much Love, Pam

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 12:39 pm #

      Thank you, Pam. You perfectly phrased it: “the Scott that I ‘knew’.” I think that we all really knew what there was to know about him. Glad you were touched by his light, as well.

      XO,
      Yazminh

  13. Michael Sillion September 20, 2015 at 9:48 pm #

    I mention this tribute in my tribute. Thanks for your thoughts Yazmine

    We Are The World!
    Live Your Legend
    and
    Un-Fuck The World

    An intense week with Scott Dinsmore passing away and Stephen Hawking urging us to spread the #GlobalGoals

    https://springismylove.wordpress.com/2015/09/21/we-are-the-world/

    • Yazminh September 20, 2015 at 10:54 pm #

      Thanks for reading and sharing, Michael. Yes, it was intense with sadness, but also with love.

      XO,
      Yazminh

  14. Laura Beth September 22, 2015 at 11:27 pm #

    Hi Yazminh,

    Bless your heart for pouring out your feelings and sentiments about Scott. What a beautiful tribute!

    I, too, have been inspired by Scott over the last year, so much so that it prompted me to start my own blog. Like you, I never met Scott in person. But unlike you, I cannot seem to put pen to paper to share my thoughts with the world. Thanks for your bravery and your gracious tribute.

    Laura Beth

    • Yazminh September 23, 2015 at 9:01 am #

      Hi Laura Beth,

      Thank you for reading and responding. It’s great that you started a blog! I think it’s one of the best ways to get your brain cranking and forming the things that matter to you, enough that you want to share it, and possibly enough that you want to change the world by it. This blog was created because of Scott’s challenge, also.

      No worries about not being able to express your feelings in the same way. You will find your own way, and it may simply be in how you show up. There is much grace in a life well lived.

      Thanks again for your kind words, and all my best to you.

      Yazminh

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